Hello. It looks like there are a lot of people that post on here who have just discovered their parents are divorcing. Mine already did 20 years ago. I am now 35. I am struggling with issues with them currently. I have had a strained relationship with my mom for years now and don't know how to deal with it. We visit her every few months or more. Her husband has 3 kids all grown also and they all live in the same town. I get along with them all right but am not close with them. My mom is close with them and that is a challenge for me to deal with as I feel very left out when we are there and around them. they are at my mom's house, the house I grew up in, every time we visit so I don't get a lot of time with just my mom. Now we argue a lot and it is hard to see her get along so easily with the others. I reacted to a comment she made about how I was a "recluse" when I was a teenager. The comment hurt me because it made me feel like there was something wrong with me. My dad left when I was 15 and my mom's husband moved in our house with his kids not long after and it was a difficult time in my life and I didn't feel my mom was very supportive during that time or many times since. My dad was gone and there were all these people in my house I didn't know and I never formed close bonds with them. I like them but feel left out and uncomfortable around them. We ended up in a argument with her screaming at me and telling me to stop acting like a freak. This took place in front of my young children. we have had one other bad argument in front of my kids. I left and I don't know where to go from here.